Fake It Til You Make It!

We've all heard the saying but what does it really mean?

As women, we always fake something. We fake love, fake feelings, fake power, money, status; a lot of things. But is that all bad? I mean can we possibly use this in a good way?

Faking Love:
Faking love can be one of the easiest things to do. Just pretend that you love yourself. It's that simple.
Do we always love ourselves? No. But can we always fake it? Yes.

How though Stacy? How can I fake love? Easy.

• When you walk, hold your head up.
• When you look in the mirror, don't see the flaw, see what makes you different. (After all, who wants to 'pretend' to be someone else).
• When you see a cute guy, go talk to him!  
• When you talk about your self, don't down yourself. Boast a little chica!

Soon you'll start believing how great you are. Once it becomes a habit, it will become a mind set.

When you fake the love, the 'fake' happy feelings won't become so fake anymore. When you actually feel happy, you'll want to chase your dreams and the money, power and status won't be so fake.

If you feel like you are wrong for faking your confidence, DON'T! Everybody fakes something.

How many guys do you know that fake what they have? About how much money, shoes, girls, etc? But they're using it to pull themselves above other people.(Not what you want to do)

Tips to Faking it Right:

• Don't ever try to put yourself above other people. You are your own person. Fake your confidence to prove it to yourself, not other people.
• Be humble!
• Don't compare yourself to others. It counteracts this process and will make you feel even worse.
• Don't try to be like someone else. Yes, I love Keri Hilson's hair and style, but I'm going to be me. I might show my stylist a picture of her hair but I won't be going blonde and I ALWAYS have my stylist put their own spin on it.
• Just be you! If your shy, don't be flamboyant, Be Confident. If you love to laugh, don't be serious, Be Confident. If your quiet, don't be NeNe, Be Confident.

So if you feel like you can't fake it, believe it. No other option.
It will take time for you to feel your confidence but that doesn't mean it won't come. You will eventually feel great and realize that you are great.

Remember: The only person that can make you truly happy is yourself. Period. End of story.

So LOVE THYSELF!

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